Cole and many guys like himself are the reason why I don’t date mixed-race/black guys. Their all conceited assholes who think the world revolves around them and that we mixed-race/light skinned girls are their “trophies”. I’M A FUCKING HUMAN BEING DO…
This is about being used as a status symbol and not being valued as a human being.
That’s how I took it.
It’s speaks to my experiences dating in the Black community too.
Ain’t got shit to do with thinking everyone want us because we’re light skin but got everything to do with ppl wanting us for the wrong reasons.
i agree with you. like obviously fetishism of light skinned girls is a real problem in the black community, but like I can’t fuck with, “they’re all conceited assholes who think the world revolves around them.” the problem is the colorism and white supremacy that’s fucked up black beauty standards. it’s not that all black men are terrible people.
Eh. Dark-skinned girls are fetishized more than light-skinned girls, and they’re not see in a way that’s desirable the way light skinned girls are. Why? Because when people say light girls are conceited, it’s because it comes from the idea that they are conditioned to having self-confidence because of their skin color and looks. Dark girls can’t afford to be “conceited” because according to white supremacy and black patriarchy, they’re not “pretty enough” to have high confidence. So the fetishism light girls have is nowhere near the level that dark and brown girls have. No one wants to be sex objects, but white girls and light girls are fetishized as “valuable” things to have while dark and brown girls are fetishized as expendable objects.
I would like to distinguish between light skinned and dark skinned non-black girls and then dark skinned and light skinned black girls. Now i dont know what non-black folk do (well I do coz Ive witnessed that too but Im black) so Im just focus on black folk.
Now in the black community having (owning?) a “yellowbone/redbone” bitch is something that is saught after. As a light skinned person I can say that black men have come up to me saying the most foul fetishizing shit I stg.But on the flip side dark skinned women are seen as the least desirable women in any race and thats true within the black community as well.
Light skinned girls are seen as trophies and dark skinned girls are seen as subhuman. Buuut on the flipside you got these niggas wit ankhs talkin bout their dark skinned nubian queens and theyre fetishizing dark skinned black women and seeing them as trophies to own. but you know what they never do? See a light skinned woman as subhuman even if they wont date/marry/own her.
So something people just won’t do to a light skinned black woman is see her as subhuman and that is because of her perceived association to whiteness. It is not her blackness that they find redeemable or human or worthy. It is the whiteness they see in her that they find beautiful and that just disgusts me so much that I personally could never be with anyone who fetishized me because I am light skinned or wanted to be with me just because of that.
Now all this comes from white supremacy, colorism, and patriarchy. I don’t like to see skin color divide our communities. But the thing is they’re already divided. And the side that is favored is the light skinned side because of the before mentioned reasons. This needs to change. This is why light skinned women (such as myself and others I see on tumblr or other social media or irl) dont need to shut down our dark skinned sisters extremely valid complaints by saying silly basic ass shit like ‘you jealous’ or ‘you just mad’ or whatever other excuse that wants to come out of your mouth. Hear their voices and do something about it. Have discussions and be open. Dont be defensive. Facts is fucking facts. Darkskinned black people have less opportunities, jobs, education, etc. than lightskinned black folk. No one is trying to say you aint black ok. Erbody kno you black and you face racism ok. But darkskinned black folk get that shit on another level. Understand that and stand with your people.
But back to what OP said. If you don’t date black guys then I can only assume you’re dating another race. Other races fetishize your skin color/mixness as well but they add in another component that they can fetishize and hate which is your blackness. And how is that any better???You shouldn’t attack all black men and say you wouldn’t date any one of them. I mean haven’t you ever heard somebody say they dont date black girls? That shit is ignorant as hell…
Idk where the fuck I was going with this but this is now the fucking length of a damn essay lmao so Im done.